At the beginning of the seminar, Alison taught us this awesome thought process. Say your in a hotel and you are on the 4th floor. You look out your window and you see what is in your view. Maybe a restaurant and a street. Now take another person who is on the same floor of the hotel but they are on the backside, they look at their window, their view is totally different from your view. They see a industrial area and men working. Two different views from the same place. The hotel.
She shared this with us before she moved into teaching us about her research. She explained that if we can change our point of view, then we can change our attitude. But we have to be willing to see something from a different side. The opposite side of the building. Is that making sense to you?
This is a powerful tool to use to allow us to realize there is more than one way to look at something. And there are wonderful people that take the time to do research and more research to show us new perspectives that if we choose to embrace, will enlighten our lives! We just have to be willing to change our point of view.
Many times we worry more about changing our results, so we start at the bottom and try to swim up stream, as Alison described it. This doesn't work.
It requires commitment to change our point of view. I am the first one to admit that I have learned enough times that my way is not necessarily the right way nor the best way. I love learning! I love that we can expand our horizons and choose to learn from others who have dedicated their lives to helping make the world a better place.
If you aren't happy in your relationship then stop right now and be willing to change your point of view and start looking and researching for information to help you get what you want. What do you want? Joy in your marriage. Then stop complaining and buy a book. Open your mind. Open your heart. Open your desire to learn. Open yourself up to the possibility there is something you are missing, and someone else may just have that missing piece you need to change your point of view! Do it! I dare you....................
"I don't believe you have to be better than everybody else. I believe you have to be better than you ever thought you could be."