My husband whisked me away on a white chariot and made me feel like a Queen for a weekend! Really it was our Camry and its grey but the Queen part is TRUE! We had a fantastic weekend. I have waited for over 11 months to cash in my 2015 Christmas gift he gave me! And it was amazing! I love inspiring music. My heart has connected with the group Il Divo. They are 4 amazing singers who I think their story makes them even that much more amazing. They didn't know each other at all, they were sought out and put together by Simon Cowell. I've seen interviews where they shared their challenges of getting to know each other and learning to work together. What I love is that their love for incredibly inspiring music became the driving force behind their success. Their struggles to work together were not the deciding factor of what they would accomplished. They worked hard to work together. It wasn't easy. Most things that are worth it aren't. And now they get to reap the benefits of hard work, dedication, and maybe even a little luck!
Hmmm I wonder where I am going with this. Could this possibly be a metaphor for marriage? You take two widely different people, I classify as two different species in the human race. And you put them together. After all the fanfare and falling in-love, real life settles in. The hard parts come. What if......what if everyone worked hard to understand each other and respect one another. Could we possibly affect the marriage union in such a astronomical way that we could make my dream come true of putting divorce attorneys out of business???? I will leave it up to you to answer that question for yourself. As for me, I choose to follow my dreams of being madly in-love and treated like a Queen and whisked away on fantastic get away with my better half. I love that my dreams are coming true. And even more so since I have chosen to work on understand HIM. My life has changed. Drastically. Amazingly. The greatest part is as I have chosen to understand him, I am getting more of what I need! How did that happen?? It's real people. I'm living proof that it's real. 26 years of marriage and never been happier. Didn't happen though, without me choosing to understand and do the work. The benefits have been magnificent!
But I have to share that this weekend was fantastic. Just the two of us. It fed my love language greatly. He was a trooper and let me get some Christmas shopping done. He fed me awesome great food! At one of the dinners I was looking across the table at him and just thought man I love this. So what did I do? I told him. Imagine that. Actually telling him what you are feeling, when its the good stuff, not just the negative! I looked at him and said, "I love spending time with you." He responded by, "your love language right". Yup he knows me. He then said, "I love to spend time with you too." Ya I know totally cheesy, but if you knew where we were and where we're at now, this is a milestone for me. Not keeping the good stuff in, and allowing myself to be vulnerable and share it hasn't been easy. So much easier to share the negative. Why?? Its so dumb! I am feeling the love today! It's a good day. Live, love and laugh, go enjoy your day and include him.
"I don't believe you have to be better than everybody else. I believe you have to be better than you ever thought you could be."