It's our choice. This statement give us all a lot of freedoms! We get to choose what we want out of this life! But this statement also puts the blame where the blame should be, on ourselves. So many people blame the world, their circumstances, family, friends, finances and any other numerous reasons on why they are not happy. NOTHING in this mortal existence can MAKE you happy. You choose to be happy. It really is a awesome concept and very freeing when you realize it is all up to YOU! No one can make you, you just get to choose what YOU want.
Now you have to decide WHAT you want........
My goal in my life is to be the BEST Trina I can be. That is Trina the woman, the wife, the mother and the soon to be grandma! I have A LOT of imperfections! I see those imperfections. I am not afraid of them anymore. Mind you it took therapy to admit that, and to recognize my short comings and realize that it's not a negative to admit them. It is actually the opposite.
Think about it, when someone shares with you something they struggle with, doesn't it often create a more intimate relationship with that person. Its that vulnerability word that I have a hate/love relationship with. But vulnerability is needed to have connection. We all need connections. And with those connections you create a support group around you that cheers you on as you choose to take steps forward to become the better you. It is SUPER hard to do this yourself. We all need people around us that we can trust to share our darkest-ugliest monsters with, and know that they aren't judging us. It is a priceless gift to have friends like this. I always want to try to be that type of friend for others.
So this takes us back to its our choice; happiness. If there is something about yourself that you don't love or wish you could change, do it. NO it won't be easy, but no one said that it would be. It will be a pain in the butt and a lot of work. A lot of ups and downs. But just take 1 thing! Just 1!! It is super empowering to know that you have the power inside of you to change YOU! You deserve to have the happiness you desire. You deserve to be the better you. You deserve to live with JOY in your life, even though the world around you is a crazy mayhem! You can be happy among challenges and stress. I do it all the time. Sometimes its not easy....But we are here having this mortal experience to work on becoming the better us. Settling is NOT an option.
"I don't believe you have to be better than everybody else. I believe you have to be better than you ever thought you could be."