Your part in partnership.
Marriage is a partnership of two very unique people. You speak different languages but manage to bring the best out in each other. As individuals you are wonderful, but together you are even better.
There is no easy way to put this. It takes work to create a healthy, loving partnership. It takes work to get to the point that when your spouse walks in the door you actually have the thought man I adore him. If it has come naturally to you, then bless you! But for many of us, life has been a whirl wind and one day you realize, dang where is the spark? Where is the contentment and happiness we felt in the beginning? It doesn't happen on its own. Many times it is a conscious effort. Choosing everyday to do one small thing; one little text, one little act of service, or just one little thought that moved you. If you did that for 30 days that would be 30 things you chose to do to strengthen your relationship. Times that by 12 that is 360 things a year you did to work on your marriage. Very do able. Now times that by 2 or 3. Try doing 3 things a day! Something with forward action. Something that is YOUR PART in your partnership. Don't be worried about his part, you can't control him.
Don't accept average or okay. You are meant to have JOY together. Even during hard times. It really really does happen. Now stop reading this and go do your part. :)
"I don't believe you have to be better than everybody else. I believe you have to be better than you ever thought you could be."