We are meant to have joy during this earthly journey. As we have taken the vow of marriage and envision in our minds the Happily Ever After, often after the honeymoon period, life happens. We're in it for the Ever After, but the Happily part tends to be put on the back burner.
This isn't what our creator expected of us. He wants us to feel joy in our relationships. The problem is we weren't necessarily born with the ability to know HOW to combine two different people (I call it two different species; we don't even speak the same language) into one healthy relationship. It takes knowledge. Knowledge is power. Why would we try to figure it all out on our own? There are plenty of others who have conquered this battlefield before us. We can learn from them. Does it take humility? Of course. But if you desire to feel loved. To feel cherished and adored. Then I promise you it is worth the effort and work.
We don't have to settle. We really don't. If you desire closeness and happiness in your marriage, then so be it, make it happen. No one can do it for you. And it won't just magically appear one day. I'm sorry it doesn't work that way. It takes work. BUT it is so worth it!
"I don't believe you have to be better than everybody else. I believe you have to be better than you ever thought you could be."